A Personal Model of Helping
July 1, 2013
The personal model of helping I currently use with my clients is based on the cognitive theory, family system theory, and the behavioral therapy. Cognitive theory deals with how a person thinks and how their thinking patterns control their actions (Parrott, 2003). The family system theory deals with being a part of a family and knowing your role within the family (Parrott, 2003). Behavior therapy include different types of conditioning, such as conditioning through stimuli, positive and negative reinforcements, punishments, and modeling (Parrott, 2003). From these three theories I have developed the Family Inspiring Therapy, also known as “FIT”. Family Inspiring Therapy is a model that uses both emotional and physical therapy to help dysfunctional families. View of Helping
In our society the word helping is obsolete. People are not as generous as they use to be and if they do help they are looking for something in return. While working with different families I have noticed that family members are in competition with one another they fail to lend a hand when needed. I view helping as a way to show love and thanks to people whenever a person is capable of doing so. Helping should be taught as a child, reinforced throughout adolescence and teen years so that people would have the art of helping mastered when they reach adult hood. Parents should take more responsibility when it comes to teaching helping skills because when the child is older it looks bad if they never take the time to offer or engage in helping others. Helping is especially important within the family unit because at some point in life there will come a time that the dynamitic of the family will change requiring that another family member lend a hand. From a personal experience seeing my mom struggle has shaped how I feel about helping. How and Why I Formed this Viewpoint
As the youngest of three children my mom did her best with helping her children finish school and make something of our lives. She was a single mother and often she lacked financial help for outside sources. My mom has a heart of goal and whenever she received a call she was always willing to help. Her passion for young girls that had become teen moms pushed her to start a non-profit organization called the “Moms program”. She collected donated baby clothes, car-seats, food, and diapers and made sure young moms could take care of their babies. Seeing the smile on her face and how happy she would get at the thought of helping others made me want to be that type of person. From the time I was able to understand what helping was I made sure that when I could my hands were at work. As I ventured into my teen years I found that my passion was seeing others happy and a lot of time that meant listening and giving healthy advice. Adulthood took me to a place of helping families stay together. My mom was married and was divorced and my dad got married and suffered serious issues in his marriage. When I married my husband I knew that divorce would never be an option and the family unit was important to me. From my personal viewpoint I have been able to develop how an effective clinician and participant relationship works. The Relationship between the Clinician and the Participant
An effective clinician should be one that is known as a self-actualized counselor. A self-actualized counselor has many traits or qualities that add to their relationship with their clients. Some of these traits are reality-based, accepting of others, problem-centered, and nondiscriminatory. They should have a sense of humor, be compassionate, and highly ethical (Parrott, 2003). Counselors that are self-actualized have a better relationship with their clients. Clients are willing to open up and share issues that painful to deal with and they do not feel ashamed or threaten in any way. The atmosphere in the office is relaxed and...
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